Funerals & Memorials

 
Rev Trish Tidy 6Increasingly funeral ceremonies are being held without a religious service, and for many people who have not attended church regularly, or perhaps never attended at all ~ a full religious ceremony is neither wanted nor apt. 
 
 
So what is the alternative?
 
A sensitively Ordained Interfaith Minister & Trained Celebrant!
 
Contrary to what most people believe you do not need to have your loved one's funeral service in a religious place of worship.  A ceremony celebrating your loved ones life, conducted in a sensitive but non-religious or slightly religious nature is becoming more acceptable and desirable.
 
When a family member or close friend dies you may feel bewildered, sad and emotional.  It can be overwhelming when you realize all that needs to be arranged in such a very short time.  Ensuring that the service and committal is carried out with care, compassion and understanding is probably foremost in your mind at this time.
 
What you need is someone who is sincere and competent and who is willing to discuss with you what you want and what you feel is appropriate for the service.  A vital part of the ceremony is celebrating the life of your loved one.  It is essential that a picture is painted of their life to serve as a focal point for other's thoughts and memories.  This brief life history, mentioning loving and treasured memories, important dates, places and people form the basis of the Funeral or Memorial Service.
  
Patricia is a sensitive and caring, mature lady who has experience in helping with bereavement, grief and compliance of loved ones wishes in a practical and efficient manner.  Taking the time to ensure that the ceremony is a fitting tribute to your loved one and a real celebration of their life.
 
If you wish Patricia will take the entire service for you.  Or, if family members or friends would like to contribute by reading a poem, making a tribute or retelling a special moment in the lifetime of their loved one, this can be honoured in the service.  Participation can make an enormous difference to the impact of the ceremony ~ with the amount of involvement and musical tributes discussed when a meeting is arranged. Recently Patricia also conducts 'Woodland Burials' ~ and so if this is the kind of service that you would like for your loved one she can help make that too, a deeply moving experience.
 
 A copy of the script used for the service will be given to the next of kin to keep and share with loved ones.  Here is just a small selection of thank you's from families I have been privileged to have helped.

"Dear Trish, Now that the formalities of mum's passing-away are over we have had more time to reflect on the events of the past two weeks and what they have meant to us. Your copy of the service you gave to us at the church is so touching and something we have never seen done before, but something we shall treasure as the time passes.  It is so difficult to remember everything that happened at the service but the beautifully presented order of service will be a continuing reminder. So many people at the Crimble remarked  on the lovely way you conducted the service for mum and how you made everyone feel very much a part of the celebration of her life. The candle was such a special touch and afterwards Dorothy's friends could tell us their stories about mum and her candles.  More than anything, your understanding and wonderful empathy made us feel comforted and comfortable that we were choosing the right way to say goodbye. At an emotionally difficult time it was reassuring to have such solid support and encouragement which we truly appreciated.  We wanted you to know that you do make a difference in people's lives and offer our sincere thanks.  We wish you continued success in your ministry. Yours sincerely Alan and Sheila."

"Dear Trish, I just wanted to say again a very big thank you for the lovely service you gave in celebration of my Dad. It certainly made me cry and smile at the same time in places as you brought his character to life. It really was a truly special send off for Dad, as commented by all who came to pay their condolences. I wish you all the very best for the future."

"I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart, firstly for your sensitive helping hand in organising our thoughts and memories of mum to make the service very personal to her. And secondly for the way you conducted the service. You made it so spiritual.  It was acceptable to all - religous and non-religious. I think you will know from the number of people who approached you afterwards that everyone thought you did a wonderful job." 

"We would like to thank you for the beautiful service you gave Norman, it said everything we needed to say.  You made a very difficult and sad time easier.  We were able to share with you what a special man Norman was.  We feel truly blessed that you came into our lives when we needed you."

"Just a few lines to thank you for the help you have given to our family.  Not only for the service you gave for all, but for the kind and thoughtful way you were with us all. Your the one who helped to keep it all together, not only on the day, but in the days after and hopefully the days to come. Your words meant so much to us all, once again. Thank you."

"Belated thanks for the wonderful service that you conducted at Oldham Crematorium. All the mourners commented on the dignified and highly personal address, and our family has roundly acknowledged and endorsed the spiritual nature of your words. Several of those present have asked for your details, and have said that it was exactly right and fitting, and just what my mother would have wanted."

 "I had to write to thank you most sincerely from all our family and friends for the wonderful service you conducted for Fred. Everybody said that it was the kind of service Fred would have chosen and they appreciated your great sense of humour - another thing Fred would have loved. I also want to thank you for the booklet you have given us as a celebration of Fred's life. I have never seen anything like it and so amusing, I shall keep it forever. Thank you so much once again for your compassion, humour and the time it must have taken you to compose such a moving and happy service. You made a very sad occasion so much easier to bear. You have a gift that not many people have, you can understand how bereaved people feel and manage to make them smile - not many people can do that."