Grief Recovery

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'The action program for moving beyond death, divorce, and other losses.'  If you are reading this then there is a high probability that your heart is broken. It may have been caused by a death ~ recent or long ago. It may have been caused by a divorce or the breakup of a romantic relationship. It may have been caused by the more than forty other losses that a person can encounter during a lifetime. It could be caused by an awareness that your life is not as happy or fulfilling as you want it to be ~ regardless of the cause of your broken heart ~ you know how you feel, and it probably isn't good.
 
I'm not going to tell you how you feel ~ you already know!  And I'm not going to tell you 'I know how you feel' ~ because I don't. Neither does anyone else. At best, I can remember how I felt when my losses occurred.
 
Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind ~ the problem is we have been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural.  Grief is the most powerful of all emotions ~ it is also the most neglected and misunderstood experience ~ often by both the grievers and those around them.
 
Grief is normal and natural, but we have been ill prepared to deal with it. Grief is about a broken heart ~ not a broken brain.' All efforts to heal the heart with the head fail because the head is the wrong tool for the job. Almost all intellectual comments are proceded by the phrase "Don't feel bad....."   or "Be strong" or "Time will heal" ~ well meaning comments but not at all helpful.
 
Obviously, recovering from a significant emotional loss is not an easy task. Taking the actions that lead to recovery will require your attention, open-mindedness, willingness, and courage. Recovery from loss is achieved by a series of small and correct choices made by you - the griever.
 
This program gives you the necessary information with which to make correct choices and offers you the opportunity to complete the emotional pain caused by loss. Common responses to grief are reduced concentration, a sense of numbness, disrupted sleep patterns, changed eating habits, roller coaster of emotional energy. These are all normal and natural responses to loss ~ and their duration is unique to every individual.
 
There are no stages of grief ~ but people will always try to fit themselves into a defined category if one is offered to them ~ so please, don't allow anyone to create any time frames or stages for you!  One of the most damaging pieces of misinformation is the idea that you can "never get over your loss" ~ this crippling idea keeps you ~ the griever's heart eternally broken.
 
Grief Recovery BookFor information on how to join an 'Outreach Group' ~ or for information on 'One-to-One Sessions' please contact me in the first instance via the contact form on this website.  The purpose of 'The Grief Recovery Method' is to help you complete your relationship to the pain, isolation, and loneliness caused by significant emotional loss of any kind ~ with a series of small and correct choices. 
 
 In order to develop a new habit, you must become aware of the need to have a new habit.  If you are reading this, then you are probably already aware that you need more effective information and habits for dealing with grief. As you progress through the program you will learn new ideas and will practice them. On completion of the program you will have much better habits for dealing with any losses or disappointments that occur in your life.
 
The 'Outreach Group' consists of 10 steps ~ 10 sessions over a 10 week period and I acknowledge that all relationships are unique ~ with no exceptions!  So if you have found the following statements unhelpful ~ "Be thankful you have another child" ~ "The living must go on" ~ He/She is in a better place" ~ "Time will heal" ~ "He/She led a full life" "You'll find someone else" ~ "Be grateful you had him/her for so long" ~ "God will never give you more than you can handle" ~ then perhaps it's time to rid yourself of these unhelpful comments from well-meaning friends.
 
Grieving people want and need to be heard ~ not fixed!
 
Recovery from loss is achieved by a series of small and correct choices made by you ~ the griever.  Acknowledge that a problem exists ~ acknowledge that the problem is associated with loss ~ be willing to take action to complete your grief ~ it's your choice to choose to recover.
 
 
 
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